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hopeI took a bit of break from the daily grind of writing posts partly because I just got really busy with a number of other things including a stupid amount of landscaping. I wish Maggie would whack me on the back of the head when I dream up these projects. You would think she would be eager to whack me considering she usually gets roped into doing a lot of lugging and mulching.

She’s a good soul is our Maggie.

I took a break because this year had a somewhat rough start with four deaths in the family over a few weeks in January and early February. These were people I have known and cared about all of my life and the loss of them made for a bitter spring. I needed some time to contemplate things and I came to the realization that my family has been too busy to stay in touch the way all our parents kept us in touch as we were growing up.

So. . .I decided to organize a family reunion and invited some 80 people from newborns to a few in their 80s. Because Maggie and I are hosting it here at the ranch, it’s been a lot of work preparing for the onslaught but it has been worth it. The response by the family has been a little overwhelming and people,  some of us haven’t seen or talked to in a very long time are coming; some from great distances, to reconnect with each other.

The other reason I needed a break was because I had lost my sense of humour and was becoming just one more angry voice in the discordant choir that has replaced civil discussion and thoughtful debate in this brave new world. We spend more time choosing sides, assigning blame and arguing about who’s right or wrong than we do trying to find solutions to our common problems. It’s as if we see life as just one big sports event and all we do is cheer and jeer. I wanted to take some time to reasses what I believe in and what is important to me.

Family stood out as the most important thing to me and my great regret is that it took the deaths of four people to remind me of that.

I’m ready to get back to it now, or more accurately, as soon as the reunion is over this weekend so I will start posting again on August 4th. There’s a lot going on in the world, much of it dangerous and too much of the west’s response has been weak, foolish and remarkably uninformed. Too many innocent people, especially children, are being slaughtered in places like Syria, Libya, Afghanistan, Ukraine, Iraq, Israel, Egypt and Pakistan and I can’t help but think of the devastation that has been brought to all those families….those innocent families just like mine…. as a result. I also couldn’t help but wonder if we would be as arrogant in our assumptions about who is to blame or what should be done if it was our families being slaughtered. It’s the 21st Century but we don’t seem to have learned very much for all of our technological sophistication.

But we can talk about that next week.  Until then, hope for the best for this savaged world and I’ll hope to see you next Monday.



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  • I hate liberals

    Man have I ever missed your posts and insight! I can not wait to hear your insight and look forward to your thoughts again! You are correct on getting so wrapped up on the infighting and the finger pointing that we forget what truly is important in life. Family and friends. My wife and I had the chance to hang out with her best friend finally at a Oriels game Wednesday night for the first time since we where married last September. Been a long time since we laughed so hard the 3 of us and no booze needed!

  • CanadaGoose1

    The Bear is back! Only saw your post now because no internet for 3 days til Bell sent us a piece for our rotor (don’t ask me) that is no longer available in their stores. No t.v., no internet, no Facebook. We recently cut our landline and cable to cut down on expenses so it’s been interesting but this is a new level. I think there is some blog asking for people to go 99 days without Facebook. What I didn’t miss especially was the horrible anti-Semitic comments on so many sites. Truly disgusting and scary, not to mention the rallys attacking Jews around the world. I am not Jewish or even Christian but very creepy happenings.

    Enjoy the summer which seems to have been one of the coolest in the States at least since 1996!

    • MaggiesBear

      I’m almost back. A couple of more days doing family stuff and it will be back to the grind. I sympathize with you about Bell. We have Bell here and I always dread when I need to call them. The term ‘customer service’ is the original oxymoron with Bell. I agree with you about the anti-Semitism, There is an increasing level of intolerance on all fronts: religious, political, economic. racial. Everything is reduced to stereotypes and one stereotype blames another. It is too angry and increasingly too violent. We are going to talk ourselves into another world war if we don’t smarten up soon.

  • Donna Hornick

    I’ve missed your posts! But so glad to hear about your family reunion! My brother hosted one on July 13th at his home on Cape Cod & it was fabulous. Ages 7 months to 88. Folks traveled from as far away as Oregon to be there. I’m sure yours will be great too! Family is the most important thing!

    • MaggiesBear

      No matter what you have in life, there is nothing more valuable than family. Our parents did a great job of keeping us connected but my generation has dropped the ball a bit. Hopefully, this reunion will remind us of what we almost lost.

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  • morris cat

    Great to see you back on BT. Just yesterday I went on your site hoping for a fresh read but May was still the last posting. It actually felt disappointing.
    Glad you are back because yours is a very worthy read most times you put fingers to the keyboard.

    • MaggiesBear

      I appreciate the kind words and will endeavour to live up to them starting next week. No promises though, I’m out of practice.

  • morri

    I was looking for you, on the net that is. welcome back.

    • MaggiesBear

      Who would have thought after all this time, I would finally be sort of, almost, kind of virtually stalked. I’m flattered. :-)

  • Frances

    Welcome back. I’ve missed your posts, even if I fulminate over them.

    • MaggiesBear

      I’ll try not to make you fulminate too often in future. :-)

  • J. Allore

    Welcome Back. I, for one, have missed your posts.

    • MaggiesBear

      Thank you Jack, I’ve missed writing them.

  • http://grumpyelder.com/ Grumpy

    when will they ever learn…won’t happen,

  • Ann

    Buy a crate of tissues and have a wonderful weekend

    • MaggiesBear

      It would be better to do something constructive than to waste time crying – or arguing – over things.

    • MaggiesBear

      You’re right, of course, but what bothers me is that more and more of us are becoming as stupid as they are. We choose sides so that we can fight among ourselves rather than uniting to overcome our common adversities and to prevent our weak leaders from repeating every mistake of history.